20 Simple Ways to Practice Sex-Positive Parenting

How I’m making conscious choices to raise considerate, thoughtful, self-aware sons

Rachael Hope
20 min readFeb 17

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Photo by Rahul K on Unsplash

To some, this may be shocking: I have a sex life, and I don’t hide it from my kids. In past generations, tight-lipped has been the norm when it comes to sex in general, let alone our own sex lives. But how are our kids supposed to learn to have healthy relationships with their bodies or with other people’s bodies if we don’t talk about it?

Knowledge and information is becoming more widespread, but people still stumble over the idea of sex-positive parenting. Misconceptions run wild, especially depending on your location or culture, and some people think being a sex-positive parent means exposing your children to ‘inappropriate’ things.

What does it mean to be a sex-positive parent?

Like most things parenting related, understanding this way of parenting requires understanding the underlying concept of sex-positivity in general. Sex-positive people believe sexual activities between consenting adults are a natural part of the human experience, and that sexual exploration and pleasure are healthy and should not be shamed.

We believe sexual activities between consenting adults are a natural part of the human experience, and that sexual exploration and pleasure are healthy and should not be shamed.

So how does this affect my parenting? I want my kids to grow up without the shroud of shame and secrecy too often surrounding anything related to sex in our culture. I want them to hold their power, respect other people’s power, learn to love themselves, accept their bodies, and understand what having responsible and safe sexual relationships looks and feels like.

My goal is for my children to leave our conversations with several things:

  • Confidence that they have access to the resources they want or need.
  • Resources I trust, whether it’s a new book or links to websites like Scarleteen and Amaze; and a reminder of other adults they know who are safe to talk to (other…

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Rachael Hope

Polyamorous, loud laughing unapologetic feminist, rad fatty, and epic sweet tooth.