Are you serious right now? I know you’ve seen my other work and know I write about sexuality a good deal. I obviously believe women are perfectly capable of being sexual beings.
The reality, though, is that your ideal of equality is completely ignoring the power differential I mentioned previously. Do I think that women are delicate flowers? Of course not. But a photo of a womans breasts is not the same as an erect penis. I would maybe buy comparing a flacid penis to a vulva. But every dick pic I’ve received has been a photo of sexual arousal, and that changes things.