Everyone can do better at everything all the time. That doesn’t mean there aren’t tons of cases where divorce is the right choice. I’m talking, from experience, about bad marriages — the one I was in, and the ones my friends have been in. What your comments fail to recognize is that we live in a patriarchal society. Have you ever considered that maybe the reason that more women initiate divorce is because the way people treat marriage in our culture works to oppress women?