First of all, like I said, you can insist that you’re not shaming people all you want, but the reality of your words is that you are saying people that have more sex are worth less.

Secondly, do NOT call me “my dear,” that is dismissive and way too familiar. I don’t know you, and I’m certainly not your dear. You can take your condescending tone right out of here.

You are STILL saying that people who sleep with a bunch of people can’t have long term relationships, even as you say you’re not judging. You are wrong. I have slept with 50 guys. I have been in my current relationship for over five years, and believe I’ll be in it for decades more. I am just as capable of love and commitment and having a relationship as anyone else.

There is no such thing as reverse-shaming. I’m not shaming you for your choices, but you SHOULD be ashamed of the way you characterize and talk about people who choose to have more sex than you.

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