I agree with Emma that if you’ve been thinking about it for over a decade, it’s not just a phase. Whether it’s a fantasy that you want to explore or not is a different thing, but I definitely think that there’s a lot to be said for leaving expectations and labels behind. I used to think I was super straight, but being involved in the BDSM/kink communities and having more genderfluid and transgender people in my life has blurred everything a lot. Now, I just don’t focus on it. I changed my OK Cupid preferences to be more inclusive, and if I find someone attractive, I find them attractive.

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