I didn’t ask you to apologize, and didn’t mean to offend you in any way. I’m not sure what you mean by “slut shaming is the easy way out,” I didn’t accuse you of slut shaming.

I didn’t talk about it because 1. It’s a foregone conclusion to me, a grown woman and 2. It’s not what this piece is about. This is about how discovering my sexuality helped me heal.

In the past 5 years I have been heavily involved in the sex-positive and polyamorous communities, and safer sex is discussed all the time. It’s not my job to insert it into personal essays about my sex life.

Polyamorous, loud laughing unapologetic feminist, rad fatty, and epic sweet tooth.

Polyamorous, loud laughing unapologetic feminist, rad fatty, and epic sweet tooth.