I don’t know why that situation needs a label at all. If you’re romantically interested in someone, and they aren’t in you, so you just stay friends, that’s just called friendship. It’s okay to be physically attracted to your friend. It’s okay to know that you would be open to something more. You can still be friends. I don’t know why people are obsessed with making additional labels for it.

As for the second part… I don’t think you are being entirely honest with yourself here. You can still treat women like human beings and express that you’re attracted to them. There are some notes of self-pity here that feel very “nice-guy”ish. You’re saying that you are doing something that you don’t like and that’s basically going to result in you being alone because you can’t figure out how to approach women respectfully. If you’re doing it respectfully, there shouldn’t be a binary of either treating women like humans or expressing sexual attraction. That’s a false choice.

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