I don’t think it’s a choice between polarization and unconditional love. I agree, the world is a very nuanced place, and I’m not demonizing Ellen. I just think there is a difference between associating with someone and being civil/polite, and being overly kind or having a friendship with them. I would expect ANYONE to be friendly to someone sitting next to them in a situation they can’t control. I’ve done it, and will do it in the future. But I’m not later going to say, I was nice because I’m kind to everyone. I will say, I don’t agree with that person’s actions, but I also believe in making the best out of situations I have no control over.