I find this entire conversation frustrating because the thing is, women DON’T have a hold on the discussion. We have been screaming until our throats are raw that we are people too and no one is listening. Nothing is changing. There is no forward movement, in fact, it seems as though we are going backwards.

What if instead of replying to my post with reasons you chose to be silent, you responded with “I’m sorry you feel unsupported. We should all be supporting each other, because these are difficult times. What do you think is the best way to support human rights right now?”

Do you think we would be arguing right now, or do you think that maybe I would have been grateful that someone finally seemed to be actually listening? You keep throwing all of these words at me, and all of these words are telling me how women are wronging men. All of these words are telling me that women are the ones who need to do better. Now is not the time to make this about men. Now is not the time to get into intellectual debates about messaging. Now is the time to listen.

I guess part of my issue is that you say that men “can’t talk about women,” and I’m wondering what exactly you’ve been saying that’s been met with such vitriol? I can’t imagine that you’d be expressing straight up support and women would be kicking you for it. Playing Devil’s Advocate and/or trying to tell women how to improve their message is not where your voice is needed.

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