I think my experiences are “the rule” in the sense that ALL women have tons of stories about nights they came close to danger. Stories of nights where if the man they were with wanted to, he could have taken advantage of them and they would have been blamed for putting themselves in the situation instead of him being blamed for his actions.
Your comment honestly reeks of rape apology. Like… it isn’t hard for a dog to not eat a steak in front of it if it is told not to. It isn’t hard for a man to not have sex with someone who didn’t ask for it. Or maybe it is hard, and I just don’t care. I’m so tired of women talking about rape being met with “well, it’s too hard for men to not just fuck everything!”
Your response to the fact that all women can list the times they were assaulted and almost assaulted should not be about how we should praise the men who managed not to assault anybody. That isn’t a thing people deserve a medal for.