I think one of the reasons a lot of the articles (at least here on Medium) are about how to enjoy it as a woman is because they’re written by women. I might be wrong, but from my limited reading that the impression I get.
I do agree that it’s not uptight not to want/like anal sex, but I also think that it’s true that many people would find it physically pleasurable if they tried it. The reality is that it’s an erogenous zone and there are a hole heck-ton of nerve endings there. Or, as my GI doctor said if you really want to torture someone, forget the fingernails and go after their butthole.
Some men do use anal as a form of abuse, but some men also use ANY sex as a form of abuse. I think you could apply the same thing to blow jobs or vaginal sex — the implication that all people can enjoy all things if they just TRY HARDER is ridiculous.
You hit the nail on the head with this, though. I wrote an article last week about the orgasm gap and the disparity in pleasure between men and women that still exists. Time for a revolution!