I’m not saying that husbands don’t rape their wives. Of course that happens. It’s not semantics at all, if a man forces his penis inside a woman who says no, that’s rape, whether there is a wedding ring or not.
I can only say that if you see what you did as rape and you continued to do it, that’s pretty fucked up.
ALL rape is forced rape. The definition of rape is forced and unwanted sexual contact. All non-consensual sex is rape. Sex requires consent. If the woman “decides she is done” as you put it, and says, no, stop, and you keep going, then yes, that is rape too.
False accusations of rape are less than 2% of reported cases, and by every estimate, not all rapes are reported. Arguments about false accusations are basically pointless, because it just doesn’t happen at the rate people like to claim.
There is something between “party time” and “rape” and it’s sex. Maybe not fun sex. Maybe not sex that people are totally enjoying. But still entered into willingly.