It’s not my job to put limits on the behavior of my lovers. I’m not their mother. I don’t want to be responsible for monitoring or controlling their behavior or giving them consequences.

I’m not suggesting that people should be with people who don’t respect them — that’s where boundaries come in. You lay out your boundaries. If the person doesn’t choose to respect them, it’s their choice, and they may be out a relationship. Trying to impose rules on someone isn’t respectful.