The main problem was that my husband was abusive. That’s not a problem that can be solved. When you say that you decided divorce isn’t an option, and would never be an option, that doesn’t leave a whole lot of room for people who are stuck in marriages that won’t work. Whether it’s because one partner isn’t willing to work at it or because one of the partners is abusive, it feels judgmental. Not all problems can be solved. No one should suffer mistreatment just because they made a marriage vow. No one should feel like they have to put a marriage ahead of their own mental/physical health and well-being.

Since you asked what my advice would be, here it is!

Thanks for the inspiration.

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