This is an interesting take. I don’t feel like it captures the way I have perceived my usage of “sorry, not sorry,” usually as a hashtag. For me, it’s been a flag to indicate that I know that society/the patriarchy/ingrained cultural expectations EXPECT me to be sorry about what I’m saying, but I’m not sorry about it. Rather than something snarky, it’s more a way for me to say — I know you don’t want to hear this, but I’m not sorry for saying it. For example, the following posts I made on Facebook:

“Well, Michael Spencer blocked me on Medium. Guess I pointed out his horribly blatant sexism one too many times? #sorrynotsorry


“I have been avoiding the news again because, fuck man. I just can’t. In what world are trans rights NOT human rights?! If you think that trans people don’t need to be part of the conversation, and have the same rights as these cis white male elephant boogers in the government, you are just… ridiculous. I mean, they do realize that changing definitions and not saying words isn’t going to make millions of people not actually exist, right? They’re not Tinker Bell, dickbags. They’re going to exist whether you like it or not, and I will stand with them and we will fight until we can’t stand. Fuck this noise. BE HUMANS. CARE ABOUT OTHER HUMANS AND BE GOOD TO THEM. Jesus.

PS I almost put a language warning on this but #sorrynotsorry it deserves all the bad language.”

The use of “no offense” wouldn’t really apply in either case. It’s more used as a way to say “I’m not sorry because you should be mad about this too.”

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