Whether or not a woman makes up her mind about whether she finds you sexually attractive doesn’t mean she’s putting you in some imaginary “friendzone.” It just means she is or isn’t attracted to you. You shouldn’t feel wounded by the fact that not ever woman finds you attractive upon meeting you. The idea that it’s not good enough for a woman to like you as a friend is gross. If you are incapable of being friends with a woman who you find attractive without some expectation of transitioning into sex later, that is your problem, not hers.

Regarding the phrase “wanting to make love to you,” just… no. Having sex and making love are two different things, IMO. In fact, some people don’t like the phrase “making love” and wouldn’t ever use it. I’ve written what I mean to write.

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