While I understand what you’re saying about cooperation, I think my main issue with everything you’ve written here is that you are completely failing to take into account the pressure and expectation placed on women by the culture we live in. If you start kissing a woman’s hand while you’re walking, then you try to kiss her mouth, there’s a possibility she doesn’t turn away because she feels trapped or like something is expected of her. You seem to expend a lot of effort in justifying micro-movements and analysing responses when it would be super easy to ask for consent in 10 different ways. For half of the things you’ve described, I can think of ways to make them just as sexy or more sexy than what you’re doing. I would rather have a guy stare into my eyes and hungrily say “I really want to kiss you right now. Do you want to kiss me?” than stand there with open arms waiting for me to hug him.

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