…at to be true. I also like to be the top at times, but that has an entirely different energy to it. I spend so much of my life being in control, spinning 12 plates at once, and holding up the center tent pole of our lives, that giving that all up temporarily feels really freeing to me.
Elle Beau ❇︎
Yes! This x 1000. I’m actually working on another piece about why strong women enjoy D/s dynamics (aka why I do).
I hate the trope that people who participate n kink are damaged. I mean, we’re all damaged in one way or another, but that doesn’t mean it’s an unhealthy pastime.
Topping does have a super different energy, the one time I really topped and experienced top drop it was sooooo different from the sub drop I knew how to expect/deal with that it threw me for a big loop.