You can shroud it in whatever you want, but telling women that “opening your legs to high numbers of men takes you out of their long term plans” is slut-shaming at its finest. Newflash, I wouldn’t want to be with any man who viewed me as less worthy of a long term relationship because I slept with other men. That’s gross, puritanical, and likely sexist.

“Anyone with a high number shouldn’t waste people’s time”?? I hope you say that to women right off the bad, because if you ask me, no woman should waste her time with a man that thinks her number of sexual partners dictates whether she’s worth your time.

I have not, nor would I, encourage anyone to be dishonest with their partner. I’d like to see these supposed statistics that people with high numbers of sex partners are more likely to cheat or fail at relationships, because I call total bullshit on that. Did you ever consider that maybe the reason she left the relationship had nothing to do with her sexual history and everything to do with the fact that she was in a relationship with someone who looked down on her??

I’m sorry your partner lied to you, but that’s not because she slept with whatever number of men. It’s because she was a dishonest person, or perhaps because your attitude made her feel like she had to lie for you to respect her, which is pretty shitty.

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