You can’t expect someone to read your whole catalog and have it as a reference point for every new story you post. That’s just not how online publishing works.
I’m not invalidating your experiences, I guess I just have a different way of looking at sharing. Obviously lots of people do poly in lots of different ways. You say you are not part of the ‘lifestyle,’ that you reject the amazing community that this type of relationship can bring. I’ve never met someone that was so vehemently anti-community when it came to polyamory, but to each their own!
I find a lot of what you say vaguely insulting, but also really hard to parse because of how verbose it is. I’m glad you’ve found a way of life that makes you feel exceptional. Peace.