I have spent my life learning all of the ways in which I might change my behavior to make myself safer. Turns out it’s never enough.
The first headline I saw was on the front page of CNN.
Wait…. what? I read the article once. I read it again. I googled it and found more headlines:
I may be crazy-looking, but I am neither an opportunity for your self-reflection nor an avenue for your growth
Online dating isn’t all bad. After all, I met my partner through a Craigslist Ad, and he’s amazing. I’ve met some great people through apps like OK Cupid and Tinder. Some days, it’s fun and flirty and fruitful. Today is not one of those days.
The Setup
Last night, I log in…
You’re not being discriminated against, you’re just being asked to lie in the bed you made
In Bellingham, Washington, we have one hospital. PeaceHealth St. Joseph Medical Center is the only hospital, and the only ER, within a 35 minute drive of downtown. PeaceHealth also runs over a dozen other medical facilities in my town, including a Cancer Care center, clinics, OBGYN and more.
At the…
Sarah Paulson Tripps the light fattastic to the tune of a million disappointed sighs
I dream of a day when I will no longer need to write about why using fat suits is insulting, unnecessary, and lazy. Unfortunately, today is not that day, because here we are again. …
Thirteen steps you can take today towards dismantling fatphobic thinking
As I’ve gotten more and more entrenched in the worlds of true body liberation and fat acceptance, the pervasiveness of diet culture has been overwhelming. A few years ago, I probably would have thought diet culture was mostly just companies like Jenny Craig and the way that new scientifically proven…
If you can’t handle me at my wettest, you can’t handle me at all
I’ve been binge listening to Emma Austin’s podcast, Pillow Talk. It’s so relatable and it feels like hanging out with the best kinds of friends. Not only is it super sexy, but it makes me laugh, and it makes me think. …
I covet the physical reminders of my own power and pleasure
Some women call their stretchmarks tiger stripes, proud of the work they’ve been through, the way their bodies roared and morphed to create them. People covet their scars as reminders of the things they’ve experienced, traumas and triumphs. And from my first scene, I relished being marked.
Bruises bloom under…
It’s great when brands include real(er) bodies, but that doesn’t make them truly inclusive
The articles began to appear immediately after Sports Illustrated put on their annual swimsuit issue runway show, which took place the weekend of July 10.
‘Inclusive’ Sports Illustrated Swimsuit show features plus-sized models
Sports Illustrated Swimsuit show celebrates body diversity on Miami runway
Even polyamorous people have limited time and emotional bandwidth
When I began exploring polyamory, I definitely did not expect the amount of terminology I’ve had to learn. Five years in, I drop words like metamour, compersion, and polyfidelity without thinking, and when I’m leading discussion group I always request that people please interrupt me if they need a definition…
Our tech-generation kids are going to come across porn whether we like it or not, so I’d like them to be prepared
Parenting is difficult at any age, but when you’re parenting small children, the ground feels steadier. Guidelines and lessons are rooted in simple values, and getting back to the basics like kindness, consideration, and safety is pretty easy. No, we don’t hit people. Yes, we should be kind. …
